Whats wrong with a 22? I dare you to answer that!!! nin Stop, Staring at me,,,, I hear you talking behind my back,,,,,, I'm Right and I Know It! You're All WRONG! That was the husband,,,, I'm perfect of-course!
Whats wrong with a 22? I dare you to answer that!!! nin Stop, Staring at me,,,, I hear you talking behind my back,,,,,, I'm Right and I Know It! You're All WRONG! That was the husband,,,, I'm perfect of-course!
That actually is how my co-worker "friend" acts. Nothing is ever her fault, everyone else is always wrong... today... tomorrow, who knows?
She may talk like someone is God's gift from heaven today, and talk trash about them the next.
She is so manipulative, I'm afraid to get on her bad side. She is very tight with the supervisors at work and knows how to make them do what she wants. She can tell a lie on someone and get them fired... all because everyone thinks she is a nice little old lady, and they believe everything she says.
In reality, she is a little old lady spawn from the devil himself!! People who have never met someone with this disorder have no clue whom they are dealing with! >
I scored a 7 on the test. Although I'm sure I have other issues (OCD and who knows what else) at least Borderline Personality Disorder isn't one of them thank goodness! :)
God created war so that Americans would learn geography. - Mark Twain
@marlingrace, yes, I know what you mean... feeling another around you... been there, done that.
Thanks for your kind words. :)
I must say, I'm a little bit shocked that this type of topic is interesting for you, after looking at all your other threads. But, I'm glad you aren't afraid to speak out about it. cu5222a777
I led a pretty blind life, having deja vu, reading peoples personalities almost instantly, just knowing when things are right and wrong, not really paying attention. Just working, then one day I met the right person that said did you know.... Talk about a lightening bolt. I am a reader and have read many things to understand her, the other unseen aspect of life, now I pay a little closer attention, and believe the things most people scoff at. I have seen it, experienced it, or been part of it.
I never really cared what anyone thought or said, thats why I liked your loner thread, my mom has said that many times, asking me why I seem like such a loaner. I have had an interesting life I think, done many things, but always felt like I was searching for the truth in everything. It is the reason I like this kind of forum, you find a different kind of people with a different intelligence and view of the world. The only issue I have is the lack on my part to communicate effectively.
Speaking through a keyboard in print is what I have always considered a 2 dimensional conversation, you can't see the smile as I type something, hear the inflection in my voice, or get a feel for the temperament of the conversation. Thats why I didn't want you to think I was insulting or condescending, with "just special".
Mystic Wanderer, I remember that thread! I just took the quiz - scored an 8. I feel for ya living with someone afflicted by this chaotic personality type.
I ejected the one I was involved with from my life. I was surprised he didn't come back - but then again, he'd been in a former relationship with someone just like him. I suppose they were much better suited to each other.
As I look back on it, (10 years later), I know that I also was in a mid-life crisis, so the combination of his BPD and my hormones made it synergistically AWFUL. Never have I been on such a terrible, mind-wrecking ride.
You are right, it is not quickly or easily identified - unless one knows what one is seeing in the pattern. It takes years to really get to know someone (to the extent that we can really 'know' each other at all)...and I admire your spunk in sticking with what must be a trying relationship.
As for narcissists, oh yes - I've known some of those, too. One of the most prominent cases is someone who was part of an organization to which I've belonged for 14 years. I stay away - and watch (but definitely do not "love") from afar. I can't stand her. wow
My husband definitely has a little narcissism in him (although he'll deny it... )
But I don't know if I would like him any other way to be honest, even tho at times he annoys me with his selfish self-centered ways (that's part of his strong personality/character)
He is all about me, me, me Where as I'm a 'we' person (I'm optimistic while he's pessimistic....balance)
I will sacrifice my needs in order to keep him happy (my choice) Yet he will do something knowing it will piss me off without any regards to my feelings (which I've learned to deal with after nearly 30 yrs.-- I just expect it)
And yes, if it isn't his idea, well ya might as well keep your mouth shut (yea right, I still say what I want to. LOL)
Now then, as far as the test goes...
I got a 5
Now I tried doing it on my husband and questions 9 & 10, I don't know if it may have more to do with his age and the meds he's on but his mood swings can come out of no where and sometimes can be verbally ugly
Then about an hour later, it's all fun and games again, like nothing ever happened (no, I don't hold grudges & learned to blow off stupid arguments)
To be honest, kinda leaning towards getting older (age) I'm just accepting of the way he's becoming....understanding
Anyhow, his test results were 16 (to the best of my knowledge)
Now then, my older sister I bet would flunk that test in a heart beat She is one odd duck....putting it mildly Her way of thinking is waaaaay out there and then some Not to mention her actions/moods When she sends me an email she gives me her bio for the last 6 mos. And calls, if she ever answers, I just let her do the talking....it's always "I this & I that" Luckily we live 2,000 miles apart. kl5222a5cb
Post by bonhommearmonica on Jan 11, 2015 0:36:39 GMT -6
Now everyone is not talking about me.. me.. me..
See the problem is I am already diagnosed
the problem is that it doesnt take those into account
I took the same much longer test for the VA..
They got mad because I finished it in 28 minutes when it is supposed to take much longer I got retested because of a personal disagreement with the staff
I got retested because of a personal disagreement with the staff
LMAO....sorry, but something about that struck me as funny!! (rofl)
No, he's never been tested, but I don't think that's it
Yes, he's narcissistic for sure But as he's gotten older, in the past 3-4 years, what I am sensing is possibly, and I hate to say this but.... I'm leaning more towards dementia
He has what I call a 'brain freeze' a lot the simplest question at times leaves him with an odd expression on his face & I can tell it didn't register But what happens next is instead of saying he misunderstood, he'll lash out at me to cover up for his faltering moment, which I've come to learn & accept
It's a bitch getting old I'm not there yet, but sometimes it gets to me watching my strong husband slowly go down
My husband definitely has a little narcissism in him (although he'll deny it... )
But I don't know if I would like him any other way to be honest, even tho at times he annoys me with his selfish self-centered ways (that's part of his strong personality/character)
He is all about me, me, me Where as I'm a 'we' person (I'm optimistic while he's pessimistic....balance)
I will sacrifice my needs in order to keep him happy (my choice) Yet he will do something knowing it will piss me off without any regards to my feelings (which I've learned to deal with after nearly 30 yrs.-- I just expect it)
And yes, if it isn't his idea, well ya might as well keep your mouth shut (yea right, I still say what I want to. LOL)
Now then, as far as the test goes...
I got a 5
Now I tried doing it on my husband and questions 9 & 10, I don't know if it may have more to do with his age and the meds he's on but his mood swings can come out of no where and sometimes can be verbally ugly
Then about an hour later, it's all fun and games again, like nothing ever happened (no, I don't hold grudges & learned to blow off stupid arguments)
To be honest, kinda leaning towards getting older (age) I'm just accepting of the way he's becoming....understanding
Anyhow, his test results were 16 (to the best of my knowledge)
Now then, my older sister I bet would flunk that test in a heart beat She is one odd duck....putting it mildly Her way of thinking is waaaaay out there and then some Not to mention her actions/moods When she sends me an email she gives me her bio for the last 6 mos. And calls, if she ever answers, I just let her do the talking....it's always "I this & I that" Luckily we live 2,000 miles apart. kl5222a5cb
You guys sound just like me and my husband. I give... he takes, never giving back. I won't say it doesn't bother me, but I have learned that fusing about it won't change him, it will only start an argument that won't do any good, so I just go on about my business.
I've left him several times over the years, but that was worse than living with him. He stalked me, and I was afraid he would get me fired because he would come to my workplace and watch me through binoculars to see if I was talking to any other men. I was afraid he might hurt some innocent person that was just a co-worker. I stayed a nervous wreck wondering if he was lurking in the bushes watching me, etc. So, anyway, I moved back and now we just kind of stay out of each other's space. With me working nights, I'm in bed when he is up, and visa versa. When he has a "temper tantrum" I just leave the room and let him "have at it" by himself.
I used to be miserable with him, but now, I've learned how to cope with it, and just do what I have to do to maintain my own sanity.
I'm sorry to hear about your husband. I had an uncle that developed that. It's not easy to sit and watch them slip away like that.
We are together 24/7 --day in and day out We also have a small business
So we are partners in both sense He is my best friend, buddy and pal hands down
To be honest, I can't imagine what it will be like when he is gone (assuming he goes before me)
He has taught me to be self-reliant so being on my own, running things is no problem
His mental is not bad yet, it's just small quirky things that I pick up on Being as I understand it's Mother Nature, I accept it and deal with it I don't take it personally when he goes off on me for some off the wall reason
He did make a real good funny last year
He had been riding my azz (figuratively mind you) for a good 4-5 weeks bitching and complaining about this, that or the other
I was getting ready for work when I said "Damn hoss, it's been so long since you gave me a compliment I wouldn't know how to act" (yea, I hossed him. LOL)
He said "That's my job"
I said "What's your job?"
He said "To make you tough"
I LMAO at him and said "gee, aren't you the romantic!!"
He goes, "You tough ain't you"
I said "Yea, tough enough not to take any shit from you"
Needless to say, we have a pretty cool relationship for the most part
The irony here.....
He taught me over the years to stand up for myself and not take no crap off anyone Well I don't, not even from HIM! (rofl)