MAYBE WE NEED 2 GIVE SOME THOUGHT 2 ARRIVING RASCALS
Nov 4, 2014 20:00:05 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2014 20:00:05 GMT -6
In some respects . . . we are enjoying a great honeymoon here.
It would be nice to imagine that such collegiality and shared warm feelings could continue as we grow etc.
And, I'm confident that we CAN depend on that to continue from Charles . . . and supposedly from those he chooses to assist him.
Nevertheless, it is likely only a matter of time until some self-righteous folks from . . . various . . . possible TOS's come around merely and near or totally to cause nothing but trouble, angst, discord, problems.
The psychologist and organizational development consultant in me would suggest:
1. While we want to give all the benefit of the doubt . . .
2. WHEN a new (or old for that matter) poster surfaces a kind of chronic contrarian attitude, spirit, tone--warn them immediately. . . . as in IMMEDIATELY. Seriously.
3. Make abundantly clear that such an ATTITUDE, spirit, tone will NOT be tolerated AT ALL here. No argument. NO rationalizations. No fancy footwork. No subterfuge. No whitewashing and dressing up rot and knives in foam rubber, rabbit fur or feathers.
4. And, it may not even be specific words. We don't need a long list of forbidden words--we'd soon have no words to use. It's ATTITUDE, SPIRIT, TONE . . . something that is usually subjective but very real.
5. Let Charles have the final say, of course. But we all need to strongly, firmly, energetically support him with things like:
"We don't sound, write, act that way here. If you continue--you won't be here."
6. It may be, Charles, that you would do well to articulate a line or 3 to go at the top or bottom of every page or the top of the posting window or some such--which specifies the standard of caring and gentility which you expect here.
7. We need to expect some tenacious folks trying to put us "upstarts" "in our place," to try relentlessly. AN IMMEDIATE, FIRM, VIGOROUS, DECISIVE AND EMPHATIC RESPONSE MUST apply every time to such folks.
8. Where there's doubt--OK, a trial period--where they have been warned and are now closely watched . . . to some degree by us all--at least all of Charles' early supporters who share his heart and values on such things.
9. I write so sternly about such matters because "a little leaven spoils the whole lump." "The little foxes spoil the grapes." Poison, rot, angry, personally attacking angst, contrariness etc. are insidious divisive tools from hell. They CANNOT be successfully played with, toyed with, ignored, molly coddled. Nor can folks dedicated to such, motivated by such, awash in such.
10. Yet, we must be wise to avoid . . . taking on such negativism as we fight against it. WE dare NOT become that which we hate because we have allowed hate to rise so within us. WE dare NOT take on corrosive hostility in dealing with hostility. The evil bloke in Star Wars exhorted to let the anger, hate rise within Luke Skywalker. No. That's not the way. IN Christianity terms, we wrestle not against flesh and blood . . . but against fallen angels, demonic forces in the atmosphere . . . and to often, around and/or in dedicatedly negative souls long sold out to living with a maximum gritch within their souls, emotions, minds, spirits, hearts.
11. I think that one way to handle that issue is to keep in mind our own clay feet as well as to treat such individuals as wounded--as they are. They need compassion. But our compassion dare not allow their rot to take root at Hernando's. We CANNOT AFFORD THAT.
12. We have to deal with such tortured souls . . . with compassion and yet dispassionately--matter of factly . . . where possible, tenderly.
imho.