Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much.
I asked him what was wrong; He said, 'Nothing..' I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it. On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior. I don't know why he didn't say, 'I love you, too.'
When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep; I cried. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.
Husband's Diary:
A two-foot putt...who the hell misses a two-foot putt ?
Not all women are like this, but I can't say that I haven't had a moment or three like that wife writes about. Not often, but it's happened.
Usually in the early stages, or the middle, or close to the end if someone still cares ?? My wife, my caddies, the girls that do my pedicure manicure, and even the girls who do a massage all seem to know if I have something on my mind and am distant.. But I have known everyone for a long time and am usually a jokester. My regular caddies commiserate with me if I am not playing down to even PAR !!
I think you are right about it being down to knowing someone. With me, it was very early in my relationship and then marriage, now it tends to be something I notice and will ask about or comment on and if he says it's nothing or indicates that he doesn't want to talk about it, I just let it go. He knows that I noticed and am interested and he'll talk about whatever it might be when or if he is ready. If it isn't something worth talking about and hashing out (as is the case with the wife in the joke) he'll mention it and move on or just shrug it off and say it isn't anything. I take him at his word at this point and trust that if he says it's nothing that it really is nothing. But, that came with time and getting to know each other so well over the years that we've been together.