JUST CAUSE THEY'RE THERE BLATHERING ABOUT TOS's

Charles1952, Bassago,

INDEED ON ALL COUNTS, both of you.

I've never observed ego as a near supreme or supreme priority to work out very well.

--It virtually always comes out of some serious degree of ATTACHMENT DISORDER . . .

--It virtually always is married to horrible degrees of immaturity, short-sightedness, pettiness, thin-skinned-ness, hot-headedness, petulance, smugness, haughtiness, self-righteousness, knee-jerk punitiveness, presumed 'omniscience' or near it; presumed or real brilliance but usually that is well hidden by thick layers of cluelessness; shocking amounts of fairly irrational arbitrariness; a shocking lack of personal insightfulness; etc.

--It virtually always bespeaks a deep inner sense of never quite measuring up or even worthlessness--usually from seriously inadequate fathering and greatly lacking quality and quantities of Daddy's love from a Dad who was a quality person to begin with.

--It virtually always !!!DEMANDS!!! that the world FORCE the individual to be HAPPY AT ALL TIMES; unoffended at all times; to win at all times etc. etc. . . . else they work hard to make those around them as miserable as they are.

--When manifested in men, it tends to be hair-trigger sensitive over any hint that their manhood may not be long enough; any perceived encroachment on THEIR turf; any hint of any question or challenge to THEIR AUTHORITY and/or any question or challenge regarding their competence.

--Also when manifested in men, it can be too often coupled with emotional, verbal &/or worse spousal and/or child abuse.

--Organizations ran by such folks tend to be hyper RULE ORIENTED vs PEOPLE ORIENTED. Given that website forums are inherently people focused, people supported, & people serviced businesses--that makes for a huge mismatch in management memes, policies, habits, tones, customs and culture vs what the people who are the customers most want, need and are most willing to contribute toward.

--The just above usually eventually results in a major exodus of the best, brightest, most authentically good-hearted, most creative, most contributive, most diligent, most responsible, most healthy members and writers on the websites.

--There's usually enough suck-ups who are similarly afflicted with such emotional/ psychodynamic dysfunctions that there's commonly enough warm bodies to keep the websites doing tolerably or at least limping along.

--However, it's also common that a smaller and smaller pie breaks into more and more hostile factions shredding each other and the website over who is REALLY SUFFICIENTLY KOSHER according to the latest RULES DOGMA SPEWING from Mt Olympus. And, of course, everyone is blaming everyone else as the root cause of it all.

I'm reminded of the classic religious joke that's far too true for comfort:

www.theguardian.com/stage/2005/sep/29/comedy.religion

LOL That's hilarious and describe the state of the US political system (among others) to a tee.

Tax increases?? "Heretic!"
Social safety nets?? "Heretic!"
Want big government?? "Heretic!"
Want small government?? "Heretic!"

And people wonder why so many things are broken.