I have been thinking about NRE. Having, over the years , I have taken part in dating sites. It started when the loon and I first split up. (the ex) The very first forum I ever joined was a divorce forum. I had a common connection with the ladies surprisingly. Divorce issues and custody of my kids. It was far from being a dating site, but it sort of turned out , somewhat flirty. The second time we split up , I hit the common dating sites, and some not so common. At the time I was looking for hook ups and one night stands. This third and final go around,I really wasn't looking for anything because I had lost all hope.I had buried my head into TOS.TOS went down and another place popped up, letting me meet others from there in a more realistic way. Real people, real stories.That is how I met my love. It just happened , slowly. Getting to know each other. We were both searching for a way out of our unhappy lives. We found that in each other, the happiness and the love. One year ago today, we met in person for the first time. No regrets, and we haven't looked back since. Looking forward to the future together.
Post by TrinityETR on Mar 29, 2015 22:35:40 GMT -6
kdog, I want to ask, considering this seems to be my issue, did at any point you finding the love of your life easier because she was part of a community that you enjoyed as well?
BTW, is it cool that I send you a link to the site I am starting, your thoughts and advice are immeasurable.
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Host of Esoteric-Truth Radio. Radio Without The Fear.
Love you too girlie! And rest assured if we ever get the chance to come down home for a visit you had better have the grill fired up and the blender at ready! :)
God created war so that Americans would learn geography. - Mark Twain
I think you have a great idea Trinity. We're all a bit different, I'd guess buy the nature of what we focus on and spend a good deal of our waking hours learning about or keeping up with. Dark stuff. Depressing stuff. Death, misery and suffering, as often as not. After all, no one has interesting conspiracies over how to pull off a child's surprise birthday party. They conspire over how to destroy it and escape to claim credit in the media.
It makes for folks a cut apart, IMO. Not better, or worse..but just a bit apart from the rest of the world. Most folks see a world event and take it of for what it appears to be. We say 'Yeah! Fat Chance!' and actually end up surprised if it WAS 'just how it appeared'. Such is the life of a dedicated member of the CT community, eh?
Almost impossible to explain OR understand for someone who has never been around it, too. So, heck, I think a spot to meet up for more than 'shop talk' sounds like a winner!
kdog, I want to ask, considering this seems to be my issue, did at any point you finding the love of your life easier because she was part of a community that you enjoyed as well?
BTW, is it cool that I send you a link to the site I am starting, your thoughts and advice are immeasurable.
TrinityETR, Yes, it was easier. That thing going on in the back of your mind about rather or not to share some of the things you know without looking like some crazy person was put at ease.
And, yes , send me the link and I will do what I can. :)
Y'all's a bunch of loons! 7/39 The problem too many people have is that they over think things. What does she like? What does he like? What if I don't like that myself? etc, etc...
I just ride the wave. If it happens, it happens. Don't sweat the small shit. I ain't changing myself to please some woman, unless she is willing to change for me as well. And that is where the hassle comes in. Just accept each other for who the other person is. It's as simple as that. And if ya can't, then move on and part as friends.
Of course that could also explain why I am a life long bachelor.
I do understand this might not be for everyone, but thats also why you have the option to sign up or not LOL
I'm not adverse to a dating site whatsoever. I think it makes sense to a degree. If people are honest. I've seen to many friends burned though by people lying about who they are on-line to the point that I cast a jaundiced eye at such site these days.
I met my last ex on-line, though not through a dating site, but through a friend who was using my confuser. I fell in love with her, we moved in together and all I saw was a field of red roses. I guess I need glasses as that field of red roses turned out to be a field of red flags, screaming DANGER! DANGER!
Beware the man who has one gun, he probably knows how to use it.
I ain't changing myself to please some woman, unless she is willing to change for me as well. And that is where the hassle comes in. Just accept each other for who the other person is. It's as simple as that. And if ya can't. then move on and part as friends.
You hit the nail on the head right here doug.....there is no need to change for another person, acceptance is key to a strong relationship Believe that is what leads to problems on down the road over time, when one tries to change another to be who they 'want' them to be, when they should just accept them as they are
I heard this saying a long time ago and it's so true:
When you like someone, you like them for all their good When you love someone, you love them for their good and bad
Post by TrinityETR on Mar 31, 2015 18:10:33 GMT -6
I fully understand the stigma that comes with online dating, and when I was not researching and could care less about things that concern me now, I would have hit the jackpot in the dating world. Yet, as I grew my concerns grew, and my mentality as well.
I have tried the "regular" online dating world very recently, and found that I was missing what matters, or was reluctant to let people know that I was a member here, or even that I did ETR. That right there concerned me more than anything.
This is a huge part of my life, and instead of having to explain my thoughts on things that I am concerned with a month later, when I feel that someone would be comfortable, I would much rather have that out there right off the bat.
I remember on TOS many members saying they wished that they could meet men and woman like the ones that were on the forum, but it was far to difficult. Maybe its just me, and I want more of a person I can connect with on a mental level, then a purely physical one, not someone who wants to change me, and me not change them, but someone who thinks our lives as beings on this planet are just as important as anything else.
Hernando's Hideaway Plank Owner
Host of Esoteric-Truth Radio. Radio Without The Fear.
I broke up with my ex because she was a cheater a little over a decade ago. Since then, literally every woman I have dated has ended up being married and hid it from me. With the exception of one. I don't know why, but I seem to attract them. But I'm not that kind of guy, so I decided to just be celibate. Less stress that way.
I can be friends with the opposite sex and have many, and they seem to appreciate that I don't hit on them. (Though in some cases I have to bite my tongue)
I don't know, I may try a dating site at some point in the future and am not adverse to being set up on a blind date. But for now, I guess you could say that I am happily bitter. LOL
Do you need a COO for your site? I'm honest, cheap (pay wise) and really don't have a dog in the fight.
Beware the man who has one gun, he probably knows how to use it.
I'm honest, cheap (pay wise) and really don't have a dog in the fight. 